Navigating Intimacy with Erectile Dysfunction: How One Man Reconnected with his Wife

(BPT) - Gene Miluk, 72, is a retired software engineer who has been happily married to his wife Mary for nearly 50 years. They live in North Ogden, Utah, and enjoy spending time outdoors and camping with their two sons and grandson.

For many years, Gene and Mary valued regular physical intimacy as a cornerstone of their marriage. As Gene aged into his 50s, this dynamic started to shift as he began to struggle to maintain an erection during sex.

Gene's experience is not uncommon. It is estimated that more than half of men between the ages of 40 and 70 will experience some form of erectile dysfunction (ED), yet it often comes as a surprise to those who experience it.[1] ED is a common condition defined as the inability to get and keep an erection firm enough for intercourse.[2] Men may develop ED for a variety of reasons including diabetes, high cholesterol and high blood pressure, which Gene struggles with.[3]

'When you've had years of experience where everything works and then you become unreliable, you feel like a failure,' said Gene. 'Each time we tried to become intimate I was fearful that I'd be letting my wife down. I questioned my value as a man and a husband.'

ED can be mentally taxing on the person experiencing the condition, as well as their partner.[4] 'I don't think we were very well educated on what it means to age, and we didn't understand why this was happening,' says Mary. 'I wondered, too, if I was doing something wrong.'

When Gene started experiencing symptoms of ED, he tried to ignore them and hoped the issue would resolve itself. When it became clear the condition wasn't temporary, Mary urged Gene to see a doctor. This was the first time Gene learned about the prevalence of ED and potential treatment options. For years, Gene's ED was treated with pills, but since his condition was progressive, they slowly stopped working for him. Gene moved on to injections but realized he started needing higher doses over time. That's when he decided to seek a more long-term and spontaneous solution.

At the age of 68, Gene's doctor recommended the AMS 700™ Inflatable Penile Prosthesis, a penile implant designed to provide men the ability to maintain an erection during sex. It is comprised of three parts: an inflatable implant, a pump which gets placed within the scrotum and a reservoir to hold the air when the implant is not inflated. It is activated by squeezing the pump and is designed to hold an erection as long as a person wants.[5] This device is designed to closely mimic a natural erection, providing rigidity when inflated and a natural, flaccid appearance when deflated.[5]

'I did a lot of research on implants and decided to move forward with it,' said Gene.

Within a few weeks after surgery, Gene was enjoying a renewed sex life with Mary.

'I was so happy to get my husband back,' said Mary. 'The AMS 700 affected our relationship because Gene felt so much better about himself.'

Now, several years after the surgery, Gene says, 'I don't even notice the implant. It opened the door for revived intimacy for me and my wife. I no longer feel any pressure around the possibility of failing. The AMS 700 has given us the gift of continued intimacy into our retirement years.'

To learn more about potential options, including the AMS 700, and to hear more patient stories, visit EDCure.org/video-series/.

As with any medical procedure, there are risks and benefits involved with the AMS 700 Inflatable Penile Prosthesis, and it's important to talk with your doctor to determine a treatment approach that's best for you. With a penile implant, the possibility of organic erections or alternative treatment options for ED are no longer possible. Other risks of a penile implant may include infection risk during the procedure; mechanical failure of the device, which may require revision surgery; and upon removal or replacement of the implant, the penis may become scarred, shorter or curved. Pain associated with the healing process can be expected.

Results from case studies are not necessarily predictive of results in other cases. Results in other cases may vary.